“In all situations we need self-restraint, honest analysis of what is involved, a willingness to admit when the fault is ours, and an equal willingness to forgive when the fault is elsewhere.
We need not be discouraged when we fall into the error of our old ways, for these disciplines are not easy. We shall look for progress, not for perfection.” — Step 10, pg 91.
— Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions by Bill Wilson, co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous
As a friend of mine once drilled into my head, when a situation is going south, check yourself first. Watch your language. Watch your tone. Practice self-restraint. If you are wrong, admit it promptly. If you are right, then forgive promptly. Anger and resentment are the fastest pathways to addiction.