People rarely do what they are great at…what they love. They do what’s easiest and spend the rest of their life regretting it.
Learn to nourish yourself and the other person with joy. Are you able to make the other person smile? Are you able to increase her confidence and enthusiasm? If you are not able to do these small things for her, how can you say you love her? Sometimes a kind word is enough to help someone blossom like a flower.
— How To Love by Thich Nhat Hanh
Day Four of work.
If you want to be deeply fulfilled by all that you do, then be the best employee at your job. Period. You may hate your boss or be frustrated by the tasks or feel disdain for your co-workers. That doesn’t stop you from doing the best you can.
You always want to do your best you can so the Universe knows to lift you out of that place and take you to an even better place to work.
Up next, the fifth step.
The Work Series:
Keep your faith is consistent, no matter your circumstances. Don’t love God only when times are good. Know that even when times are bad, God is still with you.
Mantra: I have faith in God today.
(An oldie but goodie…)
Write a gratitude list at any time of the day.
- When you are stressed.
- When you are worried.
- When you are happy.
- When chaos is swirling around you.
- When you are about to go to sleep.
- When you are at work.
- When you are confused.
- When you are feeling fine.
- When nothing is working for you.
- When everything is working for you.
Writing a gratitude list redirects your thinking so you focus on all the goodness in your life. Create a gratitude journal dedicated to all that you are grateful for.
If you love them, show them how you feel. Have a great weekend.
And try those milkshakes that are going live in two minutes.😊
- Bring a smile to someone else’s face.
- Greet a stranger.
- Secretly help someone in need.
- Write a positive comment on YouTube, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram (I’m writing about this soon.)
- Surprise your partner with a home cooked meal.
- Call your mom. If she’s not here anymore, talk to her anyway.
- Share the music you listened to as a kid with your kids.
- Bring light to a place where there is none.
“……my therapist taught me, “Everything in moderation, except joy.” As I looked back over my life, I began to understand that my joy, indeed my very existence, depends on me inhaling goodness unapologetically.” – “Sharing ‘Good Vibes’ Only Can Save Your Life” by Danielle Young (link to full article below.)
I read that quote in the December 2019 issue of Essence magazine. I was reading the magazine at Firestone Auto Care while waiting for my car to be repaired after an unexpected breakdown. The column struck me so much that I took a picture of the above paragraph.
So how to inhale more goodness, more joy when the “dailyness” of life is wearing you down? Reading Mocha Angels 365 is always good! That Ms. Mocha Angel is on point! (HA HA!)
Doing things that bring you joy is key.
Enter ellieejay from the Pointless Overthinking blog. She wrote a post called “How to Love the Repetition of Life.” (link to full post below) Simple pleasures, with minimum effort and minimum cost, are the key the enjoying the repetition of life, says ellieejay. I’m down like four flat tires with her line of thinking.
The simplest of all my pleasures is singing. I sing all.the.time. Everywhere. Anywhere. Ask my kids. I dance too. I can’t dance worth snot, but I don’t care. Song and dance bring me joy. I can’t do either one of them too much.
How do you inhale goodness? What are your simple pleasures?
Sharing ‘Good Vibes’ Only Can Save Your Life by Danielle Young: https://www.essence.com/videos/watch-the-overexplainer-good-vibes-only/
How to Love the Repetition of Life by elliejay: https://pointlessoverthinking.com/2020/01/10/how-to-love-the-repetition-of-life/
Cleaning out, not simply cleaning up, your house helps you think more clearly. Too much stuff weighs you down, body, mind, and spirit. Even the simple act of vacuuming makes my space feel lighter. Yes, I have read Marie Kondo’s books and reviewed her Netflix show, “Tidying Up.” Yes, I’m on board the KonMari Method ™ train headed to Tidyville.
It’s more than that to me. Your house/apartment/rented room is your private retreat from the chaotic outside world. At least it should be. The stuff/things/items (and people) in your home should bring you happiness, joy, and contentment. (Things can also be practical. I don’t love my Phillips head screwdrivers, my toothbrush, or my printer paper. However, I’m glad they are there when I need them.) Getting rid of stuff and people in your house who weigh you down is a good thing. Say “thank you” to your things as you release them. And say “thank you” to the space you are creating for the new in your life.
Focus on the good. Focus on what is working in your life. Focus on what you do want in your life. What you focus on grows. That focus is God telling you, “There is another way. Follow Me toward your Highest Light. I will not let you down.”