Mocha Angels 365. Day 77.

So my workplace has closed indefinitely. The governor has ordered all restaurants, bars, movie theaters, and gyms to closed until further notice. This is the right call. I’m taking the day to process my new reality.

Bottom line, I am grateful for what I do have. My kids and myself are safe. We have food and shelter. We are healthy. So I’ll let my Mocha Angels do the talking:

When you get caught up in worry, stress, anxiety, or other negative emotions, you are not focusing on God (or on the good in your life). Think of God (your good) instead of your problems. Choose to be loving, kind, grateful, and compassionate. Focusing on God-like qualities is what clears the path to a bright future.

Happy St. Patrick’s Day. Please let me know how the coronavirus is affecting you.

Mocha Angels 365. Day 73.

My late grandmother Annie Lee Lighting used to say to me, “Baby, we is living in the end times. You say your prayers every night. You hear me?”

“Yes, Grandma. I hear you,” I would say.

It’s not the end times, but it damn sure feels like it.

Breathe. Turn off the news. Read a book. Play board games. Write what you are grateful for in a gratitude journal. Don’t read social media conspiracy theories. Go out in nature. Spend time with people you love.

It’s time to connect with loved ones. If there’s anything good about all this craziness is that we see how much we all need each other.

Let me know how the coronavirus has changed life in your city or at your job. (((hugs)))

Mocha Angels 365. Day 72.

My friend Janet once told me, “Turn your pain into art.” Without pain, there is no depth to creative work. It’s empty.

Contemporary examples in music are:

Quoting Mocha Angels Day 69, these artists have transmuted even bitter and heart-breaking experiences and conditions of life into spiritual loveliness.

So take what hurts and put it into song, poetry, photography, visual art, books, videos, or whatever you love.

Mocha Angels 365. Day 65.

A friend of mine said the above quote last Sunday. I’ve been thinking about it ever since. February was a most stressful month. In the end, everything worked out, through a mix of hard work, completing all that I had to do, being proactive, and intuition.

I can’t say I was trusting the entire month. It certainly would have been easier had I been.

Is trust the opposite of anxiety? Trust, to me, is the definition of faith. Faith is the evidence of things unseen. You still have to do your part while dealing with a difficult situation, all the while trusting things will work out for the best.

What do you think? Is the opposite of anxiety really trust? Is it faith or love or calm, or something else? All of the above?

Mocha Angels 365. Day 38.

  • Bring a smile to someone else’s face.
  • Greet a stranger.
  • Secretly help someone in need.
  • Write a positive comment on YouTube, Twitter, Facebook, or Instagram (I’m writing about this soon.)
  • Surprise your partner with a home cooked meal.
  • Call your mom. If she’s not here anymore, talk to her anyway.
  • Share the music you listened to as a kid with your kids.
  • Bring light to a place where there is none.

Mocha Angels 365. Day 24.

This is a follow-up to Mocha Angels Day 23: “I speak from the heart today.” A subscriber said to me, “Speaking from the heart can cause all sorts of problems. The heart is full of emotion both good and bad.” Our conversation led me to clarify the intention behind speaking from the heart.

I learned the technique from a minister. The exact mantra is “Allow me to speak from my heart center.” It’s to be said to yourself, silently or out loud, when you are alone, not in front of other people. You say it when you are alone because this is about shifting your energy. Saying it in front of others invites judgment, and that’s not what you want. If you can’t get away from other people, say it silently. It’s said before a tense conversation (or confrontation) in order to de-escalate the situation.

Be sure to say it before you open your mouth. The intention is to speak with love to the other person. When you do speak, love, compassion, and clarity will flow from your mouth. It’s almost magical. It’s simply a shift in your thinking. You go from “I’m right, you’re wrong” (the ego) to “I want to hear you and understand where you are coming from” (the heart).

The other intention of “Allow me to speak from my heart center” is to heal the relationship. This works for everyone and anyone with whom you want to have a positive relationship.

The challenge is to remind yourself of the mantra when you’re angry or fearful, or worse, consistently an asshole/difficult/brash/rude/selfish/self-centered, etc. I’ve been that person, on all counts. I had to learn, in the hardest of ways, that insisting that I’m right all the time was leading me down the wrong path of self-righteousness aka “why can’t people just act right?” I’m the one who needs to be checking myself. I don’t need for everyone else to behave.

There are times when it’s appropriate to fight and defend yourself, or to get out of a dangerous situation. You don’t put up with anyone’s toxic bullshit or abuse. I think the heart center mantra is a gentler way of moving through life because you are being guided by love.

Hatred never ceases by hatred but by love alone. This is an ancient and eternal law. – The Buddha