You might have heard about Italy and other countries like France and Spain being on a total lock down. When I saw footage of Italians playing music and singing to each other while virtually trapped in their houses, I wanted to share it with you all. Our complicated and beautiful species always finds a way to create beauty in a bad situation.
It’s a lot easier than learning lessons the hard way, isn’t it? Try bringing love to any difficult, scary situation. You can plan ahead, think it through, make accommodations, be an adult about it. You can, at the same time, be loving, kind, patient, and still. The final outcome will be better for you and everyone you love.
My friend Janet once told me, “Turn your pain into art.” Without pain, there is no depth to creative work. It’s empty.
Contemporary examples in music are:
- Rihanna: Love on the Brain
- Adele: Rolling in the Deep
- Beyonce: Lemonade (the entire album)
- Alanis Morrissette: You Oughta Know
- Lizzo: Truth Hurts
- Amy Winehouse: Back to Black
Quoting Mocha Angels Day 69, these artists have transmuted even bitter and heart-breaking experiences and conditions of life into spiritual loveliness.
So take what hurts and put it into song, poetry, photography, visual art, books, videos, or whatever you love.
Heaven is not in the sky. Heaven is right in front of you, within your grasp. It’s so much easier to feel Heaven in a church, near a body of water, or in nature.
Every condition in life can be transmuted into glory and made divinely beautiful, no matter what that condition is. If we accept it, bless it, thank God for it or be ‘thankful in all things’, we can transmute even bitter and heart-breaking experiences and conditions of life into spiritual loveliness by this most perfect and exacting law, which is the Law of Alchemy.
— In Resonance by Jasmuheen
(An oldie but a goodie!)
FOCUS on what you do today. Make each moment meditation in motion: washing dishes, getting dressed, driving, brushing your teeth, even eating. By employing constant meditation, you will come to see that everything is divine.
I am meditation in motion today.
Bonus: Deepak Chopra gives Lilly Singh a mantra to focus on during meditation.
“In all situations we need self-restraint, honest analysis of what is involved, a willingness to admit when the fault is ours, and an equal willingness to forgive when the fault is elsewhere.
We need not be discouraged when we fall into the error of our old ways, for these disciplines are not easy. We shall look for progress, not for perfection.” — Step 10, pg 91.
— Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions by Bill Wilson, co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous
As a friend of mine once drilled into my head, when a situation is going south, check yourself first. Watch your language. Watch your tone. Practice self-restraint. If you are wrong, admit it promptly. If you are right, then forgive promptly. Anger and resentment are the fastest pathways to addiction.
When your child walks in the room does your face light up? That’s how your child learns her value. It’s a very powerful message.
Toni Morrison said the above quote on the Oprah Winfrey Show in 2000 while talking about her novel The Bluest Eye.
I saw this episode when it aired in 2000. I never forgot it. Below is a 2:26 minute long clip along with Oprah’s comments about it. Let me know how it resonates with you.
(An oldie but goodie!)
We do have control over our thoughts, actions, and feelings. When you get into the feeling space of what you desire, now you are in the manifestation lane. You act like you have it already.
For instance, back in 1997, I interviewed for a job at an internet company. I wanted that job so much. Post-interview, as I waited to hear back from the company, I decided to “act like” I already worked there. Before I’d go to my actual job, I’d drive over to the internet company “as if” I was going to work. Once, I stopped in to say hello. That job was mine and no one was taking it from me.
I got the job.
Later, I found out that I was a “pity interview.” The group that interviewed me only brought me in because they didn’t want to cancel. The day before, they had found their perfect candidate. No one could be better than homegirl, but we’ll interview Althea anyway.
Althea knocked their socks off. They were impressed with my soap opera and pop culture knowledge, which was important to the job.
I acted like it was mine…
It sounds crazy, but feeling all the intimate details of your desire will indeed bring it to you. The point of power is always in the present moment (that’s a Louise Hay quote).
Learn to nourish yourself and the other person with joy. Are you able to make the other person smile? Are you able to increase her confidence and enthusiasm? If you are not able to do these small things for her, how can you say you love her? Sometimes a kind word is enough to help someone blossom like a flower.
— How To Love by Thich Nhat Hanh