Mocha Angels 365. Day 36.

“……my therapist taught me, “Everything in moderation, except joy.” As I looked back over my life, I began to understand that my joy, indeed my very existence, depends on me inhaling goodness unapologetically.” – “Sharing ‘Good Vibes’ Only Can Save Your Life” by Danielle Young (link to full article below.)

I read that quote in the December 2019 issue of Essence magazine. I was reading the magazine at Firestone Auto Care while waiting for my car to be repaired after an unexpected breakdown. The column struck me so much that I took a picture of the above paragraph.

So how to inhale more goodness, more joy when the “dailyness” of life is wearing you down? Reading Mocha Angels 365 is always good! That Ms. Mocha Angel is on point! (HA HA!)

Doing things that bring you joy is key.

Enter ellieejay from the Pointless Overthinking blog. She wrote a post called “How to Love the Repetition of Life.” (link to full post below) Simple pleasures, with minimum effort and minimum cost, are the key the enjoying the repetition of life, says ellieejay. I’m down like four flat tires with her line of thinking.

The simplest of all my pleasures is singing. I sing all.the.time. Everywhere. Anywhere. Ask my kids. I dance too. I can’t dance worth snot, but I don’t care. Song and dance bring me joy. I can’t do either one of them too much.

How do you inhale goodness? What are your simple pleasures?

Sharing ‘Good Vibes’ Only Can Save Your Life by Danielle Young: https://www.essence.com/videos/watch-the-overexplainer-good-vibes-only/

How to Love the Repetition of Life by elliejay: https://pointlessoverthinking.com/2020/01/10/how-to-love-the-repetition-of-life/

Mocha Angels 365. Day 32.

A follow-up to yesterday’s Day 31 “I change my mind today” post.

As Louise Hay says in her book You Can Heal Your Life, “I’m willing to change.” Willingness is the key. Being willing to go out of your comfort zone, willing to do and try new things, willing to feel uncomfortable, willing to look foolish…all those things are new and feel weird right?

It’s okay to be scared to try new things. Forming new thought patterns is difficult, yet not impossible. I know some of my readers in real life, and I know what their struggles are. Just keep saying “I’m willing to change” a million times until it feels true. Dip your baby toe in the water of new experiences and thoughts. You are breaking old thoughts and habits when you say you are willing to change. Y’all know what old patterns no longer serve you. Start with something small, not attached to a big emotion.

Be gentle with yourself. Take your time. Create small changes one thought at a time.

Mocha Angels 365. Day 26.

“Life can only be found in the present moment. When you look at the beautiful blue sky, where is it? In the present moment.

In order to not miss the beautiful blue sky, you have to go back to the present moment. Because it is in that moment that you get in touch with the beautiful blue sky, the beautiful rivers, the beautiful trees…

Everything wonderful, everything refreshing, happens in the present moment. Therefore, running to the future, or getting lost in the past, you miss life. Breathing in and out gets you back to the present moment where you have an appointment with life.”

– Thich Nhat Hahn, The Art of Mindful Living

Mocha Angels 365. Day 24.

This is a follow-up to Mocha Angels Day 23: “I speak from the heart today.” A subscriber said to me, “Speaking from the heart can cause all sorts of problems. The heart is full of emotion both good and bad.” Our conversation led me to clarify the intention behind speaking from the heart.

I learned the technique from a minister. The exact mantra is “Allow me to speak from my heart center.” It’s to be said to yourself, silently or out loud, when you are alone, not in front of other people. You say it when you are alone because this is about shifting your energy. Saying it in front of others invites judgment, and that’s not what you want. If you can’t get away from other people, say it silently. It’s said before a tense conversation (or confrontation) in order to de-escalate the situation.

Be sure to say it before you open your mouth. The intention is to speak with love to the other person. When you do speak, love, compassion, and clarity will flow from your mouth. It’s almost magical. It’s simply a shift in your thinking. You go from “I’m right, you’re wrong” (the ego) to “I want to hear you and understand where you are coming from” (the heart).

The other intention of “Allow me to speak from my heart center” is to heal the relationship. This works for everyone and anyone with whom you want to have a positive relationship.

The challenge is to remind yourself of the mantra when you’re angry or fearful, or worse, consistently an asshole/difficult/brash/rude/selfish/self-centered, etc. I’ve been that person, on all counts. I had to learn, in the hardest of ways, that insisting that I’m right all the time was leading me down the wrong path of self-righteousness aka “why can’t people just act right?” I’m the one who needs to be checking myself. I don’t need for everyone else to behave.

There are times when it’s appropriate to fight and defend yourself, or to get out of a dangerous situation. You don’t put up with anyone’s toxic bullshit or abuse. I think the heart center mantra is a gentler way of moving through life because you are being guided by love.

Hatred never ceases by hatred but by love alone. This is an ancient and eternal law. – The Buddha