“Life can only be found in the present moment. When you look at the beautiful blue sky, where is it? In the present moment.
In order to not miss the beautiful blue sky, you have to go back to the present moment. Because it is in that moment that you get in touch with the beautiful blue sky, the beautiful rivers, the beautiful trees…
Everything wonderful, everything refreshing, happens in the present moment. Therefore, running to the future, or getting lost in the past, you miss life. Breathing in and out gets you back to the present moment where you have an appointment with life.”
This is a follow-up to Mocha Angels Day 23: “I speak from the heart today.” A subscriber said to me, “Speaking from the heart can cause all sorts of problems. The heart is full of emotion both good and bad.” Our conversation led me to clarify the intention behind speaking from the heart.
I learned the technique from a minister. The exact mantra is “Allow me to speak from my heart center.” It’s to be said to yourself, silently or out loud, when you are alone, not in front of other people. You say it when you are alone because this is about shifting your energy. Saying it in front of others invites judgment, and that’s not what you want. If you can’t get away from other people, say it silently. It’s said before a tense conversation (or confrontation) in order to de-escalate the situation.
Be sure to say it before you open your mouth. The intention is to speak with love to the other person. When you do speak, love, compassion, and clarity will flow from your mouth. It’s almost magical. It’s simply a shift in your thinking. You go from “I’m right, you’re wrong” (the ego) to “I want to hear you and understand where you are coming from” (the heart).
The other intention of “Allow me to speak from my heart center” is to heal the relationship. This works for everyone and anyone with whom you want to have a positive relationship.
The challenge is to remind yourself of the mantra when you’re angry or fearful, or worse, consistently an asshole/difficult/brash/rude/selfish/self-centered, etc. I’ve been that person, on all counts. I had to learn, in the hardest of ways, that insisting that I’m right all the time was leading me down the wrong path of self-righteousness aka “why can’t people just act right?” I’m the one who needs to be checking myself. I don’t need for everyone else to behave.
There are times when it’s appropriate to fight and defend yourself, or to get out of a dangerous situation. You don’t put up with anyone’s toxic bullshit or abuse. I think the heart center mantra is a gentler way of moving through life because you are being guided by love.
Hatred never ceases by hatred but by love alone. This is an ancient and eternal law. – The Buddha
Before you open your mouth to speak in anger, stop. Ask God to open your heart center, which is the seat of compassion and connection to others. Then speak again. You’ll be pleasantly surprised. Speaking from your heart can transmute a tense situation into a positive one. (I’ve done this many, many times. It works!)
Trust that those who love you have your best interests at heart. Have a heart-to-heart conversation; in person or over the phone, with someone you love. You’ll both feel better afterward.
Call people to say how much you love them. Pass on the greatest gift: love. Stepping outside of your comfort zone to bless another is one of the most beautiful things you can do.
Share yourself with your loved ones. You may surprise people with your enthusiasm, which may rub off on them. They may turn around and call someone with radiant enthusiasm too!
Mantra:
I create a chain reaction of love and good feelings today.
Remain guided by God in all that you do. Let every action you perform be for the glory of God. As you serve God, you are serving other people. If you ever question what move to make in life, ask, “What would God do?” God would do the highest, grandest, happiest, most joyous thing.
Lovers, partners, children, spouses, parents, grandparents…when you love someone, it doesn’t matter where he is on the planet. A strong love does not dissipate with distance. It only grows stronger with time.
As long as you are breathing and standing upright, you have the power to create each day however you want. What you do with each 24 hours is up to you.
Most of us have jobs, children, and responsibilities. Inject some fun wherever you can. Make each day special because once the day is over, you don’t get to go back to do it again. Although sometimes we do get a redo! (That’s an inside joke.)
Don’t like what happened yesterday? Do the next day different! Bring what you love to the day. Bring you own unique style, passions, and desires to the day. Don’t wait until your birthday, or a holiday, or an anniversary. Do you!
This is similar to Matthew 18:20 – For where two or three are gathered together in My name, there am I in the midst of them .
When two or more people meditate on love, peace, God, goodness, kindness, any positive adjective, that’s the energy that shows up. Good things happen.
You can never go wrong meditating and visualizing love. The more of us who do that, the more the world shifts in a positive direction. Based on the history of mankind, that’s a tall order. (Okay, impossible.)
So focus on shifting your personal world into a more positive space. Everyone around you will benefit. If you’ve experienced that shift, share it with me here on the blog.
Ms. Mocha Angel 