Mocha Angels 365. Day 332.

It’s Black Friday in the United States. “Black Friday” refers to retail stores slashing their prices for the start of the holiday shopping season, which ends on Christmas Day. Stores hope they end the season “in the black,” meaning they have made a profit, rather than “in the red” which means they have lost money.

My picture is red on purpose. Too many consumers end their holiday season in debt aka “in the red.” When those credit card bills arrive in January, it stings. Debt is the worst.

Don’t do that anymore. Talk to your family and make new traditions. Do a secret Santa. One gift per person. I’m getting my kids one gift each. However, I know their gifts will mean something to them because I’m listening for what they really want for Christmas.

Let me know how you are handling holiday gifts and spending this year.

Mocha Angels 365. Day 328.

It’s easy to go on the defensive when your partner is coming at you crazy. No adult likes to be accused of anything, because we are all perfect right? (smile)

Diffuse the situation. Keep listening to her if you can without losing your temper. Close your mouth. Once you say something, you can’t un-say it. Walk away. Tell her you’ll be back in an hour or two.

One purpose of relationships is to cultivate a deeper understanding of your partner so you understand where he is coming from… to look deeply to see how that person was made.

The other purpose of relationships is to grow as a person. Because when we look deeply inside ourselves, we find out the conditions that made ourselves. (From Saturdays post on the audiobook Being Love.)

So while you are away, take that time to honestly ask yourself what you have done to contribute to the conflict. Ask yourself if you are caught up in your ego. If you need another perspective, call a friend or relative who will be honest with you. One who has no problem calling you out if you are indeed wrong.

All relationships are not going to work out. If you continue to check your own stuff, and evolve as a person, the quality of your relationships will improve.

Agree? Disagree? Let me know.